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Is it acceptable to use offensive nicknames for colleagues if they don’t mind? Does it matter whether or not your colleague finds it acceptable?

Case Studies

  • Some people have long-standing nicknames that are used by other friends. Is it ok to transfer names from one context to another?
  • Is there a difference between a private and public context?
  • What happens if a ‘regular visitor’ hears the officer being called by their nickname and also starts to call the officer by that name?

Discussion

  • Who decides if a nickname is offensive? This question is not as straightforward as it seems.
  • Do you think that nicknames can help cultivate a sense of belonging and camaraderie amongst close teams? 
  • Is there a power dynamic of where the person given the name is more senior than the person receiving the name which makes it uncomfortable to stand up against this? Could this end up being considered as a discrimination case at a later date resulting in an employment tribunal, disciplinary, etc.?
  • What would the public make of a name that is used in a professional context and appears derogatory or demeaning?
It is very hard to remember to use a different name for someone if everyone knows them as x or y the rest of the time. Moreover, while some may see peer-given nicknames as a badge of honour, others may find them abusive. Some people might pretend not to be offended to fit in. Therefore, it's unsafe to assume that no complaints mean no offence. Discuss acceptable boundaries with your team to promote a culture of respect and inclusivity.